One day I sat to watch Ertugrul with my Kayi buddy- shout out to all the Ertugrul fans right here:
So my Kayi buddy pointed out that one of the characters was a doctor, and was such a good fighter too.
And that got me contemplating, (as do most things these days). I began to think about labels.
They limit us and our ability to grow.
From a very young age, we are asked:
what to you want to be? A doctor? A pilot? A scientist? A teacher?
You don’t know?
But there must be something ….
How do we expect an inexperienced child to know exactly what they would like to be when they grow up? Why do we start trying to shove them in a box at a stage in their lives when they should be exploring all the possible things they can be?
Because it was done to us, and we think it is the right thing to do.
A few years ago, in 2013 to be exact, I was sitting in the Grand Masjid of Madina and a lady I was sitting next to struck up conversation with me.
I recall her asking me that exact question. She asked me:
“so what do you want to be when you grow up? ”
The lady just wanted to know my aspirations and dreams. I said, “Happy“.
She looked at me abit confused like umm, girl, you daft??
So she gave me this funny look and instead she asked,
“Are you not studying? Do you not want to be anything ?”
This was my answer,
“I would like to be happy. Whatever I become in life,I just want to be happy.
Oh and I’ve always wanted to be a doctor.”
I ended the conversation there
But it stuck with me. I still remember this moment as if were yesterday.
I remember the lesson it taught me. That not everyone aspires to be happy because they’re too busy trying to fit in the box they think they need to stay in. The box the system teaches us we need.
No, but really. It’s true that some people won’t like you because you just cannot seem to squeeze yourself into their box and that has everything to do with them and nothing to do with you.
So choose to be you. And choose to be happy.
Bibi Aysh x